It would take a whole page to explain the backstory, but suffice it to say that in the midst of an argument with my 7-year-old, it suddenly became crystal clear to me that even though he was wrong, I would save both of us a helluva lot of grief if I just sat down and did something his way instead of mine. The alternative was to let him stubbornly continue to argue with me (or perhaps, let me stubbornly continue to argue with him) while he (and I) spiraled into a lot of anger and trouble that would likely ruin the rest of our day. It delayed me twenty minutes on a project that I’ll have to finish up later, and he was truly wrong about the subject of the argument, but in the grand balance of things I think it was better for me to swallow some stubborness of my own in order to seek peace and set an example.
As my kids get older, I have more and more moments like this. Do you ever have them?