Something is Missing…
Our kids’ rooms have pushbutton locks on the doorknobs. Over the last few weeks, this has become an issue, with Luke or Beth or both deciding to lock us out if they don’t want to do what we’re trying to get them to do. Usually they do this in the middle of some important task we need to do without delay — like get to school.
Yesterday morning, they both did it, repeatedly, despite warnings.  Enough is enough. I removed the latches so they can’t be locked. The doors still stay shut on their own. I was going to remove the doorknobs altogether, but I decided not to eliminate their privacy.
I briefly toyed with the idea of reversing the locks so the pushbutton was on the outside, but I know the kids would lock each other in their rooms. This could be funny, but… no.
I also considered just removing the doors entirely. I threatened that once when Luke was going through a period of slamming doors, and he stopped.  Instead, this is perhaps the minimum I could do. I’ll save the door removal for any additional issues.
Have you ever removed locks/doors/etc. from your child’s room?

Something is Missing

Our kids’ rooms have pushbutton locks on the doorknobs. Over the last few weeks, this has become an issue, with Luke or Beth or both deciding to lock us out if they don’t want to do what we’re trying to get them to do. Usually they do this in the middle of some important task we need to do without delay — like get to school.

Yesterday morning, they both did it, repeatedly, despite warnings.  Enough is enough. I removed the latches so they can’t be locked. The doors still stay shut on their own. I was going to remove the doorknobs altogether, but I decided not to eliminate their privacy.

I briefly toyed with the idea of reversing the locks so the pushbutton was on the outside, but I know the kids would lock each other in their rooms. This could be funny, but… no.

I also considered just removing the doors entirely. I threatened that once when Luke was going through a period of slamming doors, and he stopped.  Instead, this is perhaps the minimum I could do. I’ll save the door removal for any additional issues.

Have you ever removed locks/doors/etc. from your child’s room?

"I know you want me to do that but there are five reasons why I’m not going to. One, I don’t want to. Two, I don’t want to. Three, I don’t want to. Four, I don’t want to. And five, I don’t want to. Five reasons. Is that clear enough?"

— Luke, age 8

Oh Yes I Would!
[Scene: Beth, age 4, is breathlessly chasing Luke, age 7, around the house]
Luke: "Stop, Beth! I said STOP!"
Me: "Beth, I heard him say 'stop'. You should stop before somebody gets into trouble. Now, why are you chasing him?"
Luke: "She's trying to pull down my shorts!"
Mom: "Really? Beth wouldn't do that, would she?"
Beth: [snappily] "OH YES I WOULD!!!"
Learn it from you
Me: "Hey, don't do [...]."
Luke: [age 7] "You know, when people tell me 'don't do something' I usually ask if they ever did it, and usually they say yes. So, did you ever do [...]?"
Me: "Yes, but --"
Luke: "So why are you telling me not to do it?"
Me: "So you don't have to learn the hard way that you shouldn't do it. You should learn it from me instead."
Luke: "What if I don't want to learn it from you?"
Me: "You'll learn one way or the other."