Reminder: Mother’s Day 2013 is almost here!

Like I did last year — and almost verbatim — let me remind you that Mother’s Day is this Sunday. Do something nice for your own mother, or the mother of your kids (even if that’s you), or pretty much any other mother you know. Being a parent is seriously hard work, and in much of the world, moms carry most of the parenting load.

Chocolate? Maybe. Flowers? Not a bad idea. Dinner? Better. But try this: there are a plethora of nonprofits who work with mothers around the world.  Consider donating to them in honor of a mom.  For example:

  • Check out the Plant a Flower campaign from EngenderHealth: plant a virtual flower for a mom (for free), and someone else will donate $5 to EngenderHealth’s international maternal health work (and they give you a cool personalized video too — better than last year’s, in my opinion).  C’mon: a couple of minutes of your time could mean $20 for a good cause.
     
  • Another great nonprofit is Women for Women International, which “supports women in war-torn regions with financial and emotional aid, job-skills training, rights education and small business assistance so they can rebuild their lives.” How cool is that? The chances of me doing that personally are pretty remote, but I’m happy to support someone else doing it.
     
  • World Vision notes here that moms prefer receiving gifts that help other people. A donation to one of these nonprofits in mom’s honor is one way of doing that. Or check out World Vision’s catalog and buy some poor family a goat.
     
  • There are plenty of other organizations worthy of your support. You may even have some who serve moms or women locally.

You don’t even have to leave your computer to get these things for a mom. Click over there and do some good! Seriously, what’s your excuse?

Beth: [age 4] "I think you're trying to trick me."
Luke: [age 8] "Me? Why would I try to trick you?"
Beth: "Because you're Luke."
Luke: "I'm your brother! I would never try to trick you."
Beth: "Oh yes you would."
Luke: "Have I ever tried to trick you before?"
Beth: "Yes. A lot."
Luke: "I can't believe you are telling me this. This really hurts my feelings."
Beth: "I'm just telling the truth."
Luke: "I can't believe you don't trust me. Mom, did your brother ever try to trick you when you were kids?"
Mom: "Yes, all the time."
Luke: "YOU ARE NOT HELPING."
Beth: "You're a tricky one, mister!"
Mom: "I told you before: if you did that again, you were losing your doll for the rest of the day."
Beth: [age 4, with great drama] "Oh, is THAT what you meant? Now I understand! This was all just a big misunderstanding. I am so, so, SO sorry. I promise I will NOT do it again! Never! I had no idea I was doing something wrong!" [pause] "Please let me keep the doll?"
That screaming baby may be the last straw. Get a goat first.

This article popped up on several sites I follow. In short:

In a survey of 2,000 parents, 30 percent of the couples reportedly ended their marriages because of a crying child.

That’s a bit higher than I would have guessed. But having kids will push you to your limits, and if you’re already near those limits (perhaps due to other problems in your marriage?) then children might push you over the edge.

I posted this to the And I’m the Dad Facebook page, and someone (hi Elizabeth!) responded with her favorite advice to would-be parents, adapted from The Baba Blog:

First, get a goat, and take it shopping in the supermarket, then get a recording of a screaming colicky child and run it for 8 hours overnight, and see how you do. If you are a functional human on the next day, you stand a chance.

That may be the best advice I’ve heard in a long time.

What advice would you give to potential parents?

Wait, what? What All Mothers Must Do for Their Sons after Steubenville?

A reader alerted me to this column at HuffPo. While I agree that PARENTS must talk to their children about these issues — see my post yesterday, for example — it is honestly more of the same sexist culture to suggest that MOTHERS must be the ones to do it. Give me a break. If anybody needs to step up to the plate, it’s FATHERS.

Am I wrong to be irritated at this article?

Hey, Dads Who Support Birth Control!

The vast majority of my posts are stories about my kids, or sometimes by or for my kids, but every once in awhile I dust off the Keyboard of All Seriousness and type something different.

I am linking to an old post of mine because birth control still seems to be a hot topic in the U.S. political and media realms. In March 2012, I wrote:

Recently, CNN published an article titled, “Why don’t men in favor of birth control speak up?” It pointedly asked:

…where in these recent debates are the voices of ordinary men? Why aren’t we hearing publicly even now from husbands who are not ready to have children they would have to support? Or from boyfriends who do not have the means to support a child?

I am one very ordinary man who absolutely, completely supports the birth control coverage requirement. I’m going to continue discussing this below, probably in far too much detail, but if you’re a man who supports birth control, please speak up. Say so on your blog or Tumblr or whatever. Say it on Facebook or Twitter. Write to your local newspaper. Seriously. Birth control is not just an issue for women.

Actually I wrote a helluva lot more than that. If you read the whole thing, you’ll see I talk about religion and Republicans and science and Scripture and all kinds of stuff. I used the letters “sex” at least 24 times.

In any case, I remain amazed at the politicization of this topic. The situation may actually be more acute than it was a year ago.  Dads — or any parent, really — what say you?